READ WHAT SOME  PEOPLE HAVE  SAID ABOUT  I DO, DON'T  I?

I Do ... Don’t I? is a must have book for gay and lesbian couples at this time in our history. In fact, all Californians would benefit from the extensive in-depth exploration of the hot-button issues surrounding California AB 205. Mary Stroube addresses and answers questions essential to the lives of a community facing the legal impact of this legislation. I found the book to be well-written, clear and easy to understand, often witty but a comprehensive exploration of both the blessings and the pitfalls of this new status under the law.

Rev. Elder Dr. Freda Smith
Former Vice-Moderator, Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches
Pastor, Cathedral of Promise MCC, Sacramento, CA
Mary's extensive experience in traditional family law makes her uniquely well-qualified to write about the new law that has created a whole new kind of family: a domestic partnership. While acknowledging the social progress the new law represents, Mary skillfully warns those who are or would be domestic partners--as well as those who will be called upon to advise them--of the many uncertainties left in its wake.

Nan L. Goodart, Attorney at Law
Author, Who Will It Hurt When I Die?
The value of this helpful book is the manner in which Mary Stroube has combined practical legal advice and education with a compassionate understanding of the social and emotional issues that accompany this significant change in the law.  I would have not have thought of a legal venue as a coming out experience, but the experience clearly cannot be avoided.  Mary Stroube recognizes that this law will require greater openness which will contribute to good mental health for us all. Thank you, Mary. Your book is a public service.

Marsha Nohl, MFT
Executive Director, A.F.T.E.R. Counseling Services
I Do...Don't I? by Mary Stroube is a must read for same-sex couples and for their attorneys who deal with issues regarding virtually every aspect of domestic partnerships in California.  She writes beautifully and lucidly, bringing her considerable talents as an attorney to bear on this very important civil rights issue that is perhaps the most important civil rights issue of our time. As she points out, "marriage" is a religious matter; domestic partnerships or civil unions is a civil matter, and she lucidly deals with the many dimensions and components, the nuts and bolts, of these relationships in such a way that all people in such relationships, or those contemplating such relationships, will benefit tremendously from reading her book. Matters such as property rights, estate planning, custody rights, and relationship dissolution, are clearly dealt with as they relate to the newly passed California law AB205.  I strongly urge all those in same-sex relationships, or those contemplating same-sex relationships, and their loved ones, to read this book.  It's absolutely invaluable!   

 Jerry S. Maneker, Ph.D.
Professor Emeritus of Sociology
California State University, Chico
Author, Understanding Christianity: Biblical Studies for Effective Living